How your friends affect your health & wealth
By Bec From The Way Up Fitness
When deciding who you spend your time with, there are a few things to remember. You are the sum of your 5 closest relationships. If you show me your friends, I'll show you your future.
It's easy to think we can overcome poor influence around us. Often we aren't even present to the question, "What damage am I doing to myself by associating with people who I can't learn from and don't inspire me?"
You could think of yourself as a sharpened arrow. Eventually, if you continue to thud against something dull, you will become blunt. This bluntness manifests in poor decision making, procrastination and lack of ambition.
"He who fights with monsters might take care lest he thereby become a monster and if you stare into an abyss, the abyss also glazes into you."
People who challenge us hold up a mirror. They challenge our intellect and our choices. They make us reason, and think more clearly. They force us into taking a position. Into having an opinion.
The growth and remodelling we all crave so deeply happens in these moments.
OUR GREATEST PRESENT NEED IS SELF ACTUALISATION. WHAT A MAN CAN BE, HE MUST BE. WHICH IS TO SAY THAT WE MUST RELENTLESSLY PURSUE THE THING IT IS WE FEEL WE ARE HERE TO DO.
I believe the self eventually only finds actualization in giving itself to some higher goal outside oneself, in altruism and your own version of spirituality (of search for higher meaning). This leads to self-transcendence.
Here is a good exercise.
Mother Theresa is about to be made a saint. And I'm not arguing. She devoted her life to helping others in desperate need.
Now take Bill Gates. He ruthlessly built a business empire that made him the richest man in the world year after year. He has now used that power and influence to save more than 6 million lives. There will be millions more saved by him and his foundation.
Who should be the saint? Mother Theresa hugged. Bill Gates innovated and then he gave.
Now mother Theresa was clearly put on this earth to serve the poor. And Bill Gates was clearly put here to create business and tech. But each were able to self transcend and lead lives of altruism.
It's very easy for me to lie to myself under the disguise of helping others. But I'm not helping the world by playing a small game and neither are you. Be relentless in your pursuit of your own personal truth. Why are you here and what are you here to do?
Be the best you can be at this. Add something to make the world better. By doing this you will be helping more people than you re